Modern Muslim women often want to come back to their husband after leaving them. In this article I will describe what happens when these issues start, what takes place and how they end within our Muslim communities.
Happiness
The usual phrase on their tongue is “I’m not happy in this relationship!”, which they learn from other women that watch the same shows TV as her.
When modern Muslim women complain about not being happy in their current relationship, they cause all kinds of drama that leads to them take steps that they later wish they hadn’t.
These steps can range from leaving the husband and taking the children to go and live in her parent’s house or calling the police to help her carry out her selfish plan that will ruin her life and the children’s lives. Big events like this can cause trauma for all the children involved.
Bad mothers
These selfish women who were too busy trying to make themselves ‘happy’ without caring about the happiness of their own children, very quickly realise that the grass isn’t greener on the other side. These modern Muslim women very easily became mothers but still didn’t learn about sacrificing their own happiness for their own children.
Women who want to be ‘happy’ aren’t good mothers because:
“Love is sacrifice. If there is no sacrifice, there is no love. It’s just business.”
An unwanted guest
Once a woman takes the selfish steps of getting away from her husband she very quickly realises that the parents and siblings who cared for her so much before her marriage, they now treat her like a burden and an unwanted guest. The atmosphere in the house is filled with hatred that nobody says but she can feel like. This feeling is made worse by her brother’s wives who can’t wait to get rid of her.
On the other side, the ladies that end up in women’s shelters are treated even worse by the staff and other miserable female roommates who made the same silly and selfish mistakes as she did.
As human beings, we only realise what we had after we lose it.
Changed by suffering
It is a sad to write that these women have to actually suffer the real abuse that they made up about their husbands to get away from him, for them to grow the common sense that makes them realise that the only place safe and peaceful place in the whole world is under her husband’s protection who spent so much time and sacrificed so much for her and the children.
This suffering that she puts herself through becomes the shock that she desperately needed to wake her up out of the delusional drama and delusional Bollywood mental fantasy. This shock makes her realise that other men only want to use her body for sex and other good men will never truly love and care for her children that they are not he father of.
A new chapter
After this nightmare, she wants to come back to her husband but he doesn’t see or respect her the same way as before. But even then, he is still her best option, and she knows it. Pretty soon, the man realises what has happened and connects the dots to know that:
This “stupid and useless man” as feminists would call him, still has the common sense, humanity and decency to realise that if the mother suffers then the innocent children will suffer too when none of this is their fault.
But even after all these traumatic events caused by her emotions, she will still brush it off and blame him or other things because women never take accountability. But that’s OK. It’s a part of her nature and a man has to be aware it and accept that. You can read more about it here.
Conclusion
This is the drama that unfolds in nearly every breakup routine. It starts with anger and hate, and ends with regret and appreciation for the man she lost. It’s not a theory. It’s an exact science because it’s repeatable with all modern relationships.
Have you been through a breakup or know someone that has suffered through this kind of traumatic experience? Let me know. I’d be very interested to find out.